Your ‘should’ decisions are driven by ego, societal and social pressures. “I should go to university” or “I should apply for that position” – the concept that you ‘should’ do something is false. Your education and lived experiences are a privilege – and they are the most valuable things you own. 9. Be generous.īe generous – not with your wealth (that’s not as important), but with your knowledge.
The world doesn’t need easy and comfortable you. You’ve remained quiet all this time because it’s easy – it’s easy because it’s comfortable.
You’ve thought about correcting your friends’ choice of language when they talked about the party being ‘gay’ or their parents acting ‘retarded.’ Thinking about it isn’t good enough – correct it. You’ve witnessed a racist joke being shared – despite your discomfort, you laughed along or looked away awkwardly. 8. Get comfortable with the uncomfortable. If you’re not taking care of yourself, you won’t be in the position to take care of others. It’s one thing to be selfless, and it’s another to be careless. Be selfish with yourself.Īlways put your mental and physical health before others. Think of the people you laugh the most with – spend more time with those people. If you can find a way to laugh about it – do. Laughter is the most effective medicine out there. It’s about freeing yourself of all the negative emotions you’ve been carrying – find a way to forgive. Forgiveness is about making peace with the things you cannot change. Let go of your resistance to forgive – it’s not about the other person and what they should have done differently. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you agree with or condone what happened. 5. Find a way to forgive.ĭon’t confuse forgiveness with acceptance – they are not the same. We waste a lot of energy by being angry – be sad, disappointed, and heartbroken – be anything, but don’t be angry. By being angry, you don’t win – and you’re definitely not the bigger person. Nothing good or productive is achieved from a place of anger. Sometimes you don’t need a why – sometimes (most of the time) it’s a combination of luck and being at the right place at the right time. That position has been filled and if he hasn’t called yet, he’s not going to. If you’re asking yourself why you didn’t get the job or why he didn’t call you back – stop. If you catch yourself dwelling on the ‘why’ – stop. Take ownership of what you could have done differently, apologize, and don’t let it happen again. For example, if you’re late (see lesson one), don’t blame the traffic on the highway – there’s always going to be traffic, and you should have planned for it. If you have upset or disappointed someone – don’t try to justify it with an excuse. Set your clock ten minutes back, wear a watch, or leave ten minutes early – whatever you do, don’t be late. By being late, you’re telling that person you don’t value them – simply because you’re not valuing their time. Time is one of the most valuable gifts you can give.
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